I’ve got problems at home - what can I do?

Remember, even people who love each other argue sometimes. Just because they fight doesn't mean they're going to stay cross with each other for long or if it’s your parents that they're going to get a divorce.

Nobody likes other people to think their family isn’t perfect but most aren’t! This is more common than you think. Talk to an adult you trust – a teacher or youth worker.

Where can I get help?

There are five family resource centres in Hull that help families to live together better. Tell your parent or call (01482) 300 300 to find out which is nearest to you. You can go and hang out or talk to people about what’s going on at home.

Children and Young People’s Services is there to help you, call (01482) 300 300 and ask for Children and Young People’s Services.

The Rights and Participation Project (RAPP) is about making sure children are listened to and have a say in decisions that affect their lives. If you feel like no one is listening get in touch with the RAPP team, call (01482) 225855 or the mobile 07971429383.

RELATEEN is a counselling service in Hull for young people aged 12-18 years who are suffering the effects of problems in their parents' or step-parents relationship. It doesn’t matter when these problems happened or if they’re still happening.

If you want to find out more call (01482) 581702. You can usually see someone on weekdays after 5pm and on Saturday mornings too.

How can I make sure we argue less at home?

Top tips for getting through family problems:

• If something has made you angry, count to 10 and breathe slowly and deeply. When you're calm, try talking things through with the person you're arguing with. You'll probably feel much better and more in control than you did before
• Your parents or carer was young once and they liked going out and having fun and snogging (yuck) like you do! It might seem like they don't understand you - but keep talking to them
• Remember that parents and carers don't really want to make things difficult for you they just care about you. Sometimes it's hard for them to remember what it’s like being young!!

Talk to your parents or carers about how you feel - instead of screeeeeeeeeeeeeaming at them! You never know miracles might happen and they might listen to you more.