Why do some people hurt themselves?

Some young people self-harm a lot. Some do it just once or a few times.

For some people it is part of coping with a problem and they stop once the problem is resolved.

It's a way for some young people to have some control over their bodies when they feel they can't cope with other things going on around them.

Some young people may start to self-harm as a way of dealing with the problems and pressures of everyday life - like looking a certain way, pressure to fit in or doing well at school.

Young people who self-harm may have low self-esteem. For some this is linked to how they think they look, eating disorders, or drug misuse.

I think my friend is self-harming - what can I do?

Many young people who self harm try to keep it a secret.

But the sooner someone accepts that they do have a problem, the easier it is for them to get help.

If you have noticed something is wrong, the chances are others will have too. It is not all your responsibility but you still need to tell an adult or talk to your friend.

If you’re worried about your friend then tell an adult you trust. They may decide they need to tell your friend’s parents. Let your friend know that you are going to do this, maybe they will tell their parents instead.

It’ll be tough and your friend might be mad at you for getting involved. In time they will probably be glad of your care and friendship.

You can get help from talking to friends and family or a counsellor.

If you feel really low or troubled you can call the Samaritans 24 hrs a day on 08457 909090 or email jo@samaritans.org.uk

How to get help

If you self-harm, you probably need help sorting out your problems. There are lots of people who can help you understand why you feel the need to self-harm and how to stop.

It can be hard to get help and you might feel these are stopping you from getting help:

• You don’t know who to ask
• You don’t know if confidential help is available
• You feel too ashamed or bad about yourself
• You feel worried that who you tell will be shocked or angry with you
• You’re frightened people might think you’re mad, suicidal or attention-seeking
• You may find it hard to trust people
• You might be worried that you’re forced into treatment you don't want.

Don’t let any of these reasons stop you from getting help.

Remember you're not alone. Lots of other young people who self-harm have made the same decision - and many have been helped to stop hurting themselves.

Click on this link to find out more about the Young People's Support Service's counselling service (link opens in a new window).
 
Talk about self harming in a supportive environment at TOAST - Talk Openly About Self-harm Together (01482) 218115.

You can speak to counsellors to find out how to get help by calling ChildLine for free on 0800 1111.

You can call the Samaritans 24 hours a day on 08457 909090.